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Megycal
Sep Member 2005

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C a z said :
I was gonna post but actually cant express how im feeling atm


*hugs*
I've been in your situation twice and it is awful. I remember I felt constantly tense, as if I had a coiled spring inside just waiting to burst open. Every time the phone rings the thought "Is this it?" runs through your mind. Its being made more horrible by the pandemic..Nothing you can do to change the situation, just tell them you love them and do what you can to make their life as comfortable as possible.

CM Arbor said
"Thanks for the kind condolences; they're always appreciated. I'm doing my best to get back to normalcy, but I really never know how I'm going to feel on a given day. I guess it's a slow, winding process."
Arbor, its still early days for you. Grieving is indeed a slow winding process and is ever changing. One day you will feel OK then the next day sadness will feel like a mist around you. Things will improve in time.
Everyone who has lost a loved one has my sympathy. Be kind to yourselves.
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12-Jan-2021 14:25:06

C a z
Jul Member 2005

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Thought I would bump this important thread.

Not much to update with regards to my mum, the cancer is growing and spreading to different bones.

She feels very unwell most mornings but come lunchtime feels quite a bit better! The local hospice have been to visit with mum and me just to go over how things are at present.

They have been AMAZING. Giving us both emotional support as well as helping her with choosing and getting good pain relief meds for her, and getting her a blue badge and benefits under the DS1500 rule form.

So, on a bright note, next week, me, hubby, mum and my children and my grandchildren are going to the south coast, in a large holiday let 200 yds from the sea (mum loves the sea).

Fingers crossed the weather will be a little kind....
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04-Sep-2021 02:02:21

Kiwi Magic

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I lost my best friend and partner over 10 years ago and I've never gotten over it.

After a couple of years I stopped being angry, but I still think about her every day.

It's probably why I can't be in a successful relationship ever since.
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04-Sep-2021 20:22:13

Tuffty
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Because of Covid I've been keeping out of a lot of shops for safety and health reasons.

I kept going past a local pet shop I used a lot pre-covid and often taked to a guy who helped out in the shop. He was disabled and havent seen his mobility scooter in ages so while I was out yesterday I called in to the shop.

Asked the staff where Bob is and She told me he had passed on in January. I just filled up and walked away trying to hide the tears. Started talking to the parrots etc to calm down. It came as a huge shock as he was a guy I looked upto for all my gardeing needs. I used to work with him in an old Victorian Walled Garden for a long time and loved it. He was a great guy to work with and to know. He would have done anything for you.

I'm going to miss his happy smilling face in the pet shop when I go in for anything now. He was in there for years just helping out and to pass the time. It kept him active and busy.

So Bob R.I.P my friend. I'm going to miss you.
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08-Sep-2021 14:51:22

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Tuffty, I have a (somewhat) similar story.

Note: This all happened pre-Covid.

I used to go to Taco Bell literally every day for lunch to the point that every worker there knew my order (because I got the same thing every day) and there was this employee, Eric, would usually take my order and he'd (most days) give me my pop for free and such. He was cool.

Chatted occasionally about nothing in particular, but he was a lovely bloke. I came in once or twice on my days off to grab a drink or whatever and half the time he'd just hand it to me and shoo me away saying that I should pay it forward (which I always keep in mind whenever I'm out and about) and all.

After a while I stopped seeing him so I asked one of the other guys who worked there if he still worked there or what happened and I was told that he'd passed away a month or so earlier. :c I actually was really sad. Dude was a legend.

RIP Taco Bell guy. You were a real hero.
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08-Sep-2021 15:16:49

Scouse
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5th of may 2018 i lost my dad, he was only 53 and died because of circumstances i'd rather not mention, i could not mourn his death and still to this day i refuse to mourn him.

I do not know the exact reason for this, some family members tell me it is because i am scared to mourn but myself, i believe it is because he would have hated to see me suffer in that way and if he had to watch me winging and crying it would piss him off lol, so i stay strong for him.

I may have grieved a bit at 1st, idk if this is grieving but i used to get drunk and sit on my own speaking to him and begging him to show himself to me "idk, as a ghost i think" but he never did, i have stopped that now and just live life with the thought "life goes on"

What is really odd about that is a few years ago i lost a great friend in game who i had knew since almost day one but i had never met her irl "she was Canadian" and when i found out she passed, it broke me, i was a broken mess irl and here in game =(

Much love

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