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Bluefirecan
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Amanda and I have tried to politely inform him of the various chores in the apartment that need to be done (AKA, shit like "take out the damn trash once in a while"
, but he says it's just as much our responsibility.
I think a better response would have been: "I agree, which is why it's your turn to do it now." And if he refuses, turn his own words against him.
Telling him he makes you feel uncomfortable and makes you want to leave is problematic because it could lead to two pathways:
1) He could take it as a personal attack and stop listening.
2) Getting you to leave could be his goal. If neither of you are there but you're both paying rent, he gets the apartment to himself at a third of the cost. You're also not really giving him any incentive to change his ways because you're showing him that eventually there will be a point where the 'nagging' stops (when you quit going to the apartment altogether.) He might not care about living in a pigsty.
Anyways, here's a video you could share with your roommate (even though it may only make everything worse):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z32kVO2rtrk
Bluefirecan said :
is also oblivious to his white male privilege.
None of those qualities you listed are exclusive to white men.
Azi Demonica said :
Sounds like you are dealing with a psychopath
Er... that's a bit of a bold assumption...
Azi Demonica said :
because such a person is also often capable of terrible crime.
Or they're just extremely lazy?
Azi Demonica said :
If you must stay with him, be sure to keep a kitchen knife in your room at all times
Seriously Azi, what the hell? I'm surprised you aren't suggesting she make a pre-emptive strike and take him out first. Beneath the gold, the Bitter Steel.
Amanda and I have tried to politely inform him of the various chores in the apartment that need to be done (AKA, shit like "take out the damn trash once in a while"
, but he says it's just as much our responsibility.
I think a better response would have been: "I agree, which is why it's your turn to do it now." And if he refuses, turn his own words against him.
Telling him he makes you feel uncomfortable and makes you want to leave is problematic because it could lead to two pathways:
1) He could take it as a personal attack and stop listening.
2) Getting you to leave could be his goal. If neither of you are there but you're both paying rent, he gets the apartment to himself at a third of the cost. You're also not really giving him any incentive to change his ways because you're showing him that eventually there will be a point where the 'nagging' stops (when you quit going to the apartment altogether.) He might not care about living in a pigsty.
Anyways, here's a video you could share with your roommate (even though it may only make everything worse):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z32kVO2rtrk
Bluefirecan said :
is also oblivious to his white male privilege.
None of those qualities you listed are exclusive to white men.
Azi Demonica said :
Sounds like you are dealing with a psychopath
Er... that's a bit of a bold assumption...
Azi Demonica said :
because such a person is also often capable of terrible crime.
Or they're just extremely lazy?
Azi Demonica said :
If you must stay with him, be sure to keep a kitchen knife in your room at all times
Seriously Azi, what the hell? I'm surprised you aren't suggesting she make a pre-emptive strike and take him out first. Beneath the gold, the Bitter Steel.
30-Nov-2017 00:41:12 - Last edited on 30-Nov-2017 01:02:05 by NotFishing
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