Yeah... I am in the same boat. I could definitely drive 20+ minutes away and work 60+ hour weeks and hop right back on that fast track, but I just can't. I also negotiated for another week of vacation instead of more pay. If my company doesn't give me full time, however, I will be jumping on that remote work bandwagon.
I don't blame my husband for taking his career opportunity as he makes a lot of money (double me, sometimes triple depending on overtime), but yeah it is just me most days. He is a great dad when he isn't working and he does his best with chores - there is just a lot to do. We plan on paying off our house ASAP (only 60k left after 3 years) and switching to decently paying but far more family friendly jobs - we just have to get there first.
Funny how kids change your prirorities, eh? How many you got?
Edit: I also should not have been so one sided, because although I was talking to a female, the males also get pressure like you said - to provide. You guys have to make a choice as well - do you take on part of the parenting responsibility and take a hit to relieve your partner or you do "lean in" to get more money and be even more financially stable? It may be different, but it is still a hard choice.
I wish it was different and the work and pressures were more evenly distributed, but for many, the old prevailing views are still very much present.
And I swear I'm not going to let her know all the pain I have known
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