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Dear Kay Mack,

I fear my wife may be keeping secrets from me. We have been married roughly ten years, and my family has grown distant as a result of our marriage.

I fear my wife may be a Demon. I know, it sounds weird. She has the longest legs I have ever seen, absolutely lovely orange eyes, and beautifully long, sharp horns. But recently, I've noticed that she doesn't eat or sleep like she used to, and also has recently burned down a village or two.

I love my wife dearly, but I am a Saradominist. How do I approach the question of her race without hurting her feelings?

Signed,

Fiery Passion",

Dear Fiery Passion,

I think you might be missing the point, here.
Make no mistake, I question how you might have managed to marry a demon of all things, but that's not the problem you're facing.
Since people don't just become demons overnight (or at any time in general), so we can safely assume you simply didn't notice her true nature before now, so there's that question answered.
But there's a more pressing issue that I must address.
If you love her, her race should not matter. Ask yourself this, instead; why is she not eating or sleeping as she used to? Why did she burn down those villages? She may be keeping secrets, but those secrets are taking a toll on her mental state.
I suggest you approach her sincerely, and ask her if she's feeling alright. If she rebukes you harshly, tell her that you're worried. Let her know that how she feels matters to you. If she refuses to tell you what the problem is, simply let her know that you're there for her. Support her.
And, if at all possible, convince her to stop burning down villages. Nobody likes a pyromaniac.

Hopefully helpful,
*KAY MACK

Dear Kay Mack,

As a single mother working full-time I find that I have an increasingly shortening schedule for myself to just be.

Between work, caring for my children and coping with a recently acquired disability, it feels as though I can hardly catch my breath without something requiring my immediate attention.

Don't misunderstand, I love my work and my family, but sometimes I feel so overwhelmed by everything that's going on around me. What can I do to fix this?


With gratitude,

Neurotic Kebbit

Dear Neurotic Kebbit,

While I can't exactly tell you to deal with it and bear the load, this situation seems to only have one question, and one answer; endurance.
As anyone who's had children will tell you, it's not easy to do everything you need to without sacrificing some facet of your personal life. This doesn't mean that you can't find a few 'shortcuts', though.
I do suggest that you coordinate with your co-workers, neighborhood friends, or whoever else may be available, to take off a day every so often. How often is permissible is up to you. It's not a weakness to rely on others for help, after all; when you consider the facts, it's practically required. Otherwise, we'd all be hermits living in caves.
Let's say that you don't have anybody you can rely on, then (or you refuse to). Try introducing your children to pastimes that you enjoy; perhaps, with a little effort, you can all enjoy it together.
With this particular situation, however, it's possible that none of that will work, since your children might be too young to read or play games or whatever you might have suggested.
But you must stay determined. Don't give in to the voices who tell you it's pointless; they're simply whispers in the roaring winds that push you back.
But you must push harder.

Best wishes,
~KAY MACK

Dear Kay Mack,

I am a young man currently living in northern Kandarin and I have found myself growing attached to someone. I grew up in relative isolation with my parents, I didn't see much of my other family and made little friends. So I'm stuck.

What can I do to find out if she likes me? I'm quite shy...

Thanks

*.B

Dear *.B,

Love is probably one of the most complicated forces of nature that all people have to deal with. It's no wonder that people have used it in countless books, plays, and other such entertainment. It's strange and uncontrollable, but with the right mindset - and noble intentions - it can be guided.

If you want to get closer to her, I suggest you first talk with her more often, or collaborate and arrange certain times you two can be together. It may take a little while, but the best way to show your feelings is to use your words.

Once you feel comfortable around her and she feels comfortable around you (you'll probably have to act on the latter, rather than the former), pick up something she enjoys. If you don't know what she would enjoy, then perhaps you could pick up some flowers. Make sure she's not allergic, by the way. Such nasty things happen disturbingly often.

Make sure the gift isn't extravagant, but thoughtful; after all, she may prefer petals and trinkets over gold and diamonds, and as nice as it is to give her gifts, try not to build her affection off of things, but rather, yourself. Be cordial, listen to her problems, offer solutions, and in general, be kind.

If you're not that type of person, then I suggest you find somebody more suited to your personality. As said by many more before I, building your relationship upon who you are not will only cause harsh retribution when the truth is inevitably revealed.

Be honest. Be cordial. Be yourself.

The best of luck,
*KAY MACK