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XSlay4DeathX
Mar Member 2007

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I'm happy being child free, everyone i know that are parents always complain about their kids sadly. I look at my lifestyle and i do deem myself selfish/greedy for not sharing my stuff with others,

I put myself as a parant visually 20+ times using my mind, too much restrictions and my stuff and living areas aren't anywhere close to being childproof, I do enjoy my sisters kids but they make me nervous when they are in my living courters as they run and throw stuff.... :|

I do buy my nephew and niece a lot of expensive stuff tho to make up for me not having kids, it does make me feel greedy a lot given what i have in terms of land/house space, Like my nephew wants a VR headset, nothing would make him happier, i see it in eyes and compare it to when my parents didn't get me what i wanted years ago, and i know 100% his dad isn't going to shell 1k+ for a good headset.

01-Jul-2021 12:22:02

Averia Light

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XSlay4DeathX said :
I'm happy being child free, everyone i know that are parents always complain about their kids sadly. I look at my lifestyle and i do deem myself selfish/greedy for not sharing my stuff with others,

I put myself as a parant visually 20+ times using my mind, too much restrictions and my stuff and living areas aren't anywhere close to being childproof, I do enjoy my sisters kids but they make me nervous when they are in my living courters as they run and throw stuff.... :|

I do buy my nephew and niece a lot of expensive stuff tho to make up for me not having kids, it does make me feel greedy a lot given what i have in terms of land/house space, Like my nephew wants a VR headset, nothing would make him happier, i see it in eyes and compare it to when my parents didn't get me what i wanted years ago, and i know 100% his dad isn't going to shell 1k+ for a good headset.

Aww, I hope you can alleviate your guilt over not having kids soon. Really, I hope that as a society we can kill off the guilt over having or not having kids (because the guilt doesn't stop when you have kids). And I swear I'm not going to let her know all the pain I have known

01-Jul-2021 12:48:50

XSlay4DeathX
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Averia Light said :
XSlay4DeathX said :
I'm happy being child free, everyone i know that are parents always complain about their kids sadly. I look at my lifestyle and i do deem myself selfish/greedy for not sharing my stuff with others,

I put myself as a parant visually 20+ times using my mind, too much restrictions and my stuff and living areas aren't anywhere close to being childproof, I do enjoy my sisters kids but they make me nervous when they are in my living courters as they run and throw stuff.... :|

I do buy my nephew and niece a lot of expensive stuff tho to make up for me not having kids, it does make me feel greedy a lot given what i have in terms of land/house space, Like my nephew wants a VR headset, nothing would make him happier, i see it in eyes and compare it to when my parents didn't get me what i wanted years ago, and i know 100% his dad isn't going to shell 1k+ for a good headset.

Aww, I hope you can alleviate your guilt over not having kids soon. Really, I hope that as a society we can kill off the guilt over having or not having kids (because the guilt doesn't stop when you have kids).

I don't mind my guilt, my nephew and niece enjoy the gifts i give them but family members get angry as i go over budget on xmas/birthday gifts, i put myself in their shoes and go "which nerf gun would i want?" which ends in me buying like 3 as i can't decide which one he would like better.

I still have time to change my mind on having kids but as far as society goes, i don't trust people. I may just adopt kids and avoid the divorce/child support chances. Some problems in this world, i prefer to avoid at all costs, given the drawbacks sadly. Plus i do feel sorry for kids in those homes, Least they are treated better in todays times vs days i remember. :)

01-Jul-2021 18:26:31

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I didn't want to get married and didn't have the desire to have kids. Well, I did get married to a man who didn't want kids, either. The marriage lasted 1 year 6 months. Both of us were in the military, but stationed at different installations.

He was sent to Germany on a 4 year tour. I told him I would try to get stationed in Germany, hopefully at the same installation. I found out I wasn't eligible for any overseas assignments for another 2 years. One afternoon, there was a knock on my door. I answered it and it was my husband. He said he was on 2 weeks leave. I didn't question it, had no reason to. The two weeks were nearing an end and nothing was said about him going back. I questioned him. He told me he wasn't going back. During the course of the argument, I found out he wasn't on 2 weeks leave, he had gone AWOL 2 weeks ago.

I was making the military a career and didn't want to get arrested for harboring a fugitive. After several "discussions" I gave him a choice. In one week time he either turned himself in or I move out and have the divorce papers sent to him. He didn't turn himself in, I moved out and we got a divorce. He said that he understood and didn't contest it.

I never remarried and still didn't have any kids.

04-Jul-2021 06:46:35

Dong U Dead

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The woman, who is unnamed, shared her story with Kidspot, explaining that she wishes she didn't have her two children, and that her life would be "better" without them. She said that she loves her two sons very much, but that "the reality just didn't meet the expectation" when it came to having children.5/10/2020
https://www.heart.co.uk › lifestyle
Mum-of-two admits she wishes she didn't have children as life was ...
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04-Jul-2021 06:55:59

Dong U Dead

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Dong U Dead said :
The woman, who is unnamed, shared her story with Kidspot, explaining that she wishes she didn't have her two children, and that her life would be "better" without them. She said that she loves her two sons very much, but that "the reality just didn't meet the expectation" when it came to having children.5/10/2020
https://www.heart.co.uk › lifestyle
Mum-of-two admits she wishes she didn't have children as life was ...
^Not sure how that got posted? I clicked return?? Weird...

Anyway not sure if this article (link below) is the same story that has been hitting the headlines lately or not:


New mother admits regretting having baby, says it 'ruined her life' in brutally honest post
https://www.newshub.co.nz/home/lifestyle/2021/07/new-mother-admits-regretting-having-baby-says-it-ruined-her-life-in-brutally-honest-post.html
If fat means flavour then I'm ******* delicious!

04-Jul-2021 06:59:47 - Last edited on 04-Jul-2021 07:00:54 by Dong U Dead

Nead
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O_o Right now, closing in on 30, I'm perfectly happy just dating and supporting only myself financially -- most days.
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04-Jul-2021 07:12:55 - Last edited on 04-Jul-2021 07:14:41 by Nead

Brigantia

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@ Dong - I can't read the article you shared because it's unavailable outside your country.

Anyway, based off the headline, thanks to the internet, the conversation is finally being had that parenthood isn't what our parents, and their parents before them, said it was. It's good that these conversations are being had.

It sucks, but that's how it is. Some people just aren't cut out to be parents, and that's ok. And as an added site note, because I know how that's going to be received: It's ok to admit the feelings, and that doesn't mean that these parents who admit these feelings aren't still owning up to the decision they made to be parents. That doesn't make them bad parents either.
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04-Jul-2021 17:07:46

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I almost got married and had kids... almost. In high school, I was dating a young lady who was beautiful inside and out. I fell hopelessly in love with her and she with me. We talked about marriage, kids and how to rear them.

We had been dating for a little over 3 years and out of high school. We were on the same page for most things. I decided I would propose to her on Christmas Day, December 25. I was saving as much as I could for a nice engagement ring. During the month of November, I got right down to the heart, soul and gut feeling of what I was about to do and got a very severe case of cold feet.

She wanted to be a stay at home Mom with 3 kids. Her parents raised her that way and was taught it was the husband's job to support the family. She never had a job outside the home and never got her hands dirty (she wore gloves so she wouldn't get callouses.) What would happen if I lost my job, got sick or injured to the point where I couldn't work for an extended length of time...or ever? (I was in construction at the time). She was insistent on having 3 kids. What if I was able to support 1 or maybe 2 kids, but not 3? We discussed everything but those questions.

I needed an out to think things over more. Solution: Join the military and get an overseas assignment as soon as I could. I wanted to spend Christmas with my folks, but I felt sure she was expecting a ring on that day. Christmas Day came and I announced to the family that I had joined the military and would be shipping out the second week of January. My girlfriend grabbed my hand and dragged me outside. After discussing this for nearly 2 hours, she gave me an ultimatum...It was either her or the military. I had already committed myself to the military. She broke up with me.

I decided marriage and kids wasn't for me. I'm a confirmed Bachelor.
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04-Jul-2021 18:34:23

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