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Dong U Dead

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When I was a teen, an older teen I had a few people say that I'm different, don't change I like your different or was the word strange - I can't remember - whatever that means, I just smiled and said ok or something, wasn't sure what to say. I knew I was different. Only a handful of people may like my different, my strange, my awkwardness, me.

Basically I had one good friend at anyone time through primary and college years, I didn't realize I could have lots, no one told me, keep your old friends and make new friends. So sadly I lost friends through my ignorance. In my 20s, 30s I tried to mix my friends, introduce each other, have parties, go to parties, pubs, nightclubs and that just didn't work out.

It was easier when I was younger, so much easier. The older I got the more people judged, that's how I felt/feel. I think I was/am easily manipulated, hurt, misunderstood. When I was younger I got jobs on the spot, even in holey jeans which weren't fashionable back then and a t-shirt. Had trouble staying in jobs, usually lasted 2 or so years.

I think the reason I got jobs is because of first impression, small talk, young, attractive I suppose. I was a good hard working, reliable and extremely honest, too honest. Not sure if honesty is a trait or not, saying or seeing how it is or how I see it if that make sense.

I think differently, I see things differently, I don't understand people, or why people are the way they are.

I think my middle son has it too, even though with tests they said no. He's very quirky. When he was a toddler two people told me he had Autism. To this day he can't point, socially awkward. Doesn't like change even though with age it has Improved. When younger he fixated on things until out of sight. He hates taking different routes. He had the most incredible brain.

I don't know. I just see thing from Aspergers that's very similar or same as me, my son.

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03-Feb-2021 06:20:12 - Last edited on 03-Feb-2021 06:24:43 by Dong U Dead

Wild Bill63

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@RSAcool - maybe, I'm not 100% certain, I know sometimes I found myself struggling with the same issue but can I say it's related? Not exactly. My advice would be ask a doc, the mind is a complex organ and how it works honestly depends on the individual.

03-Feb-2021 08:40:23

FiFi LaFeles

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Friend's husband has some fixations (correct word?); they have a bedspread which he will not allow her to throw away even though it's 25 years old and tattered. It must be on the bed at all times.

He has a woollen scarf which he wears all the time even on hot days, and indoors, which she is not allowed to wash. It's very old and dirty and it makes him smell even from a distance. He's not allowed to wear it at work so he takes it in his briefcase each day.

Another example of how he takes everything literally is on several occasions we'd gone out for drinks with them and he had no money. Friend said why haven't you brought any money with you - he replied that she never told him to (even though the evening was drinks in the Pub where I'd have thought anyone would not need to be told to bring money).

He did it again the next time and finally out for a meal with them and their two kids (who were much younger at the time). We ended up having to pay for everyone. At which point I decided not to see him socially any more as I thought he was by now simply taking the piss.

He was given a diagnosis of Asperger's many years ago but I suspect there's more going on than that.

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03-Feb-2021 10:41:21

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2005

Dadizar

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From:

https://rarediseases.info.nih.gov/diseases/5855/asperger-syndrome#:~:text=The%20cause%20of%20Asperger%20syndrome

Asperger syndrome is part of the autism spectrum disorder (ASD), a group of disorders that affects the development of social and communication skills.[1][2] Unlike many children with ASD, children with Asperger syndrome do not have early language delays, and often have well developed language skills and normal to above average intelligence. However, they may use unusual speech patterns and have a hard time understanding irony, humor, and sarcasm or gestures and social cues important to normal conversation.[3] Many children with Asperger syndrome develop an obsessive interest in one topic or object. They may use high-level vocabulary or complex statistics in conversation.[1][3] Children with Asperger syndrome may have delayed motor skills and thus can appear uncoordinated and clumsy compared to their peers. Other features of Asperger syndrome include difficulty interacting with peers, inappropriate social or emotional behavior, and engaging in repetitive routines.[1]

Both children and adults with Asperger syndrome are at an increased risk for depression, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), mood and anxiety disorders, and other mental health disorders

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03-Feb-2021 11:02:56 - Last edited on 03-Feb-2021 11:06:17 by Dadizar

FiFi LaFeles

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Ah, yes, that'd explain his obsession with the scarf and bedspread.

And he definitely does become fixated on certain things - the strangest (to me) was when he became fascinated with making Cocktails. Idk where that came from, he drinks Bitter. They've never been to a resort where cocktails might be served, they don't go on holiday as he panics at the thought.

Anyway, he spent a small fortune (and I mean rather a lot of cash!) on purchasing several cocktail shakers and sets of fancy glasses plus so many bottle of booze their sideboard looked like a high class Bar. There were all the usual spirits and mixers plus many bottles of stuff I'd never even heard of. Jars of cherries, little umbrellas, fancy straws ... the whole nine yards.

He'd scour the internet for recipes and spend hours making amazing-looking concoctions.
Then pour them down the sink

He didn't even taste them and Friend never drinks alcohol anyway. I was in their house one time and said "That's looking awesome can I taste it". He said no they were not for drinking.

I never got my head around that one.

Fortunately for their bank balance this craze only lasted for about a year.

Le Chat Guerrier

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03-Feb-2021 11:54:38 - Last edited on 03-Feb-2021 11:56:00 by FiFi LaFeles

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2005

Dadizar

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FiFi LaFeles said :
Ah, yes, that'd explain his obsession with the scarf and bedspread.

And he definitely does become fixated on certain things - the strangest (to me) was when he became fascinated with making Cocktails. Idk where that came from, he drinks Bitter. They've never been to a resort where cocktails might be served, they don't go on holiday as he panics at the thought.

Anyway, he spent a small fortune (and I mean rather a lot of cash!) on purchasing several cocktail shakers and sets of fancy glasses plus so many bottle of booze their sideboard looked like a high class Bar. There were all the usual spirits and mixers plus many bottles of stuff I'd never even heard of. Jars of cherries, little umbrellas, fancy straws ... the whole nine yards.

He'd scour the internet for recipes and spend hours making amazing-looking concoctions.
Then pour them down the sink

He didn't even taste them and Friend never drinks alcohol anyway. I was in their house one time and said "That's looking awesome can I taste it". He said no they were not for drinking.

I never got my head around that one.

Fortunately for their bank balance this craze only lasted for about a year. I can relate to that story. I have lots of chess sets/boards, coffee paraphernalia, tents and backpacking gear, marbles, kites, and Legos from various manic collecting episodes over the years.

I have a very full, yet interesting, attic, and as can be gleaned from its contents, I am skill a kid.

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03-Feb-2021 15:05:28

Dong U Dead

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I just know I'm different, I see the world different. It wasn't until I was in my teens that I noticed this, that I'm strange or weird or different.

I have good eye hand coordination, I can look at people in the eye, very messy handwriting. Noises drive me batty. My boys click and clack and I just can't handle that. I like peace, quietness which I often don't get with two boys. I can handle and love some loud music, while other types of music makes me annoyed, frustrated or even angry.

Last year at a course I was sitting around the lunch table listening to a group of people talk about someone with Asperger's and I said a lot of what your saying sounds like me.

Apparently some women or a lot?? with Asperger's have/can learn to be -what people expect people to be like, learn to adjust, fit in, we can accommodate our differences to fit in <- maybe I've done this?? I observe, that's how I learn, that's how I learnt chess at primary school, by watching, learning. Didn't play the game until my mid teen years and remembered it.

I didn't excel in anything at school, this could be due to not liking school or my home life, not feeling comfortable with my own bones/body, my own shoes or surrounding areas. I've always hated being me. I still do.

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03-Feb-2021 15:37:23

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2005

C a z

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To me all traits are on a line from like 1 to 100 and everyone is somewhere on all of those lines.

So for example

paranoia 1 - 100
adhd 1 - 100
aspergers 1 - 100
ocd 1 - 100
anxiety 1 - 100
many more 1 - 100

And maybe if the scale tips higher on 1 or many of these lines and it causes issues thats when it becomes a problem that needs diagnosing and additional support.

To be clearer i think everyone has every trait, its the extent of the traits that then cause problems Remember Caz. Never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.

06-Feb-2021 23:51:53 - Last edited on 06-Feb-2021 23:53:19 by C a z

Wild Bill63

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@Caz, that makes sense.

07-Feb-2021 03:58:20

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2004

Ms Toxicity

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@C A Z - I agree that everyone is on the spectrum somewhere. Some are high functioning and others need support.

Fun fact - my brother-in-law was diagnosed with Asperger's at the ripe old age of 50, nearly 17 years ago. He does have issues socially - difficulty in reading social cues, etc.

Just as I write this, I have realised that my partner and his other brother are also on the spectrum - my partner is just high functioning compared to his siblings.

P.S. @ Dong - a lot of teens are not comfortable with themselves. A lot of it is puberty related and, as you age, you become more accepting of yourself.

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