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MrsWetlander
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Friendships are a delicate balance. There is no mold to what attracts folks I don't think. Sometimes we are highly attracted and feel a bonding with folks that are so opposite of us that it would seem unlikely. But then the balance part comes in.

No matter how different you are, or how many times you may agree that you just will never agree, there is still trust and a special bond. And a true friendship is hardly ever broken, even if folks part ways for what ever reasons. The heart of it is still there in time to come, if it was a true friendship.

Trust and honesty is the basic of it all, and dependability of that trust and honesty, no matter what. In any working relationship. Once that is gone, all is lost. Sure there can still be a relationship, but not a true friendship. One should be able to depend on a friend, even with differences.

And where do you meet the friendships? It just happens.


~ Mrs ~ "
When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.
" ~ Jimi Hendrix ~

14-Jan-2014 03:48:43 - Last edited on 14-Jan-2014 03:50:33 by MrsWetlander

Anon Troll
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Truth be told, I haven't had a friend outside of the internet since 2006. My human interaction is basically low, even at work.

I am sick of losing people. I put a smile on my face and carry on living my life as if everything is okay, but I am more alone than ever.
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14-Jan-2014 03:57:38

Vargo Hoat
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I rarely make friends irl,because i have some speaking issues(stutter and R is more like L),But the friends i have irl i made in school,and online I can fairly easily talk to different people,making me some online friends.

15-Jan-2014 15:51:44

Awesome041

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I think friendships form in a lot of different ways.

The most fascinating way is the unexpected friend, like when one is walking down the street and all of a sudden meets another interesting person. Then there are friends who understand exactly what you are going through and may be in a similar situation themselves or have had similar experiences. There are different kinds of friends too--friends you want to keep close because they can be trusted, and friends you have to keep close because they cannot be trusted. Different levels of friendship include: acquaintances, casual, close, and intimate. Traits of friend include, but are not limited to: trustworthiness, respect, honesty, love, and consistency.

Friendships can form by doing things together or working together too. Friendships can also wane, as people move and contact is lost or as people go their separate ways.

The grey line that is tough to navigate is how far to go with a friend. It is good to help a friend learn something new, but better to teach them how to learn it themselves! Another grey area is individuality and independence. Closer bonds usually result in more codependence; personalities could move closer or farther apart.

I wouldn't ever reject a friend outright for behaviors I oppose, but if they can't respect me or my opinions about it, such as choosing not to participate, then it is over. For example, drugs and similar behaviors are something I try to avoid; I don't need more health problems. (Most people are okay with such choices, I think.) Breaking the law depends on the circumstances and the seriousness of the offense. As for a tatoo or piercing, I am not a big fan, and I would never get them myself, but realize that is common today, and sometimes people make crazy decisions; also there is always more to a person than first appearances.

19-Jan-2014 03:30:39

Awesome041

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MrsWetlander said :
... I have even recently had some say, " so I guess we are not friends anymore " after they told me something that they knew would upset me. And my reply was.. " well, do you quit your family just because you don't agree? ". Of course we don't. ;) We work thru it. And respect we are not exact molds. ...

~ Mrs ~ Whether family or friends, some people don't want to work through their differences; if you try you just end up worse off.

Anon Troll said :
Truth be told, I haven't had a friend outside of the internet since 2006. My human interaction is basically low, even at work.

I am sick of losing people. I put a smile on my face and carry on living my life as if everything is okay, but I am more alone than ever.

I know that feeling too ... eventually you just feel like giving up and ask, are friendships really worth all this? And maybe we really are alone? One thing is for sure, it is hard to find people who you can trust, so be careful who you choose as friends, especially close friends.

19-Jan-2014 03:33:08

Lootun
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I have few friends, but that is of my own doing. I'm not a very sociable person. I dislike interacting with people, makes me feel awkward and nervous. Surprised I have any friends if I'm perfectly honest. I enjoy my own company (which many people find strange).

To the OP - My friendships were formed due to common interests and my.. 'unique' sense of humour.

~Olly
War. War never changes.

19-Jan-2014 03:37:51 - Last edited on 19-Jan-2014 03:46:33 by Lootun

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