You are right, people will focus on the fact that what was stated was rude rather than the point behind it. That is why if you want to make a point you do so with tact. They will focus more on what you are saying rather than how you said it. You can be much more successful in communication this way. You can't simply speak to someone and expect them to understand that you are being direct and not a jerk.
Also this is direct:
"The game has changed and they need to adapt"
This is rude:
"The game is changed and they are just bad"
Your post translates to the later.
28-Jan-2016 19:06:05