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Megycal
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I think financial planning is sensible. One thing I do find odd is buying clothes for the children for 2 years ahead. Children grow at varying speed and also styles might change. Some will say fashion doesn't matter but who can say how that child will feel about such things in the future? I don't care about fashion but I'm old.
If I like something I don't care if its this year's style or one from years ago.
She is 3.5 and the things I bought were obnoxiously sparkly, colorful, sequins or a combination of the three. I buy from thrift stores (the main one is Once Upon a Child) or from clearance racks. I have yet to meet a 4 - 6 year old who doesn't like obnoxiously busy outfits.
So yeah, it is a bit of a risk, but I view it as a small risk that so far has worked flawlessly. Once I hit the 6-7 year old range, I'd just buy the essentials (like jeans, tank tops/layers, things like that). Shoes and coats as well. And I swear I'm not going to let her know all the pain I have known
I think financial planning is sensible. One thing I do find odd is buying clothes for the children for 2 years ahead. Children grow at varying speed and also styles might change. Some will say fashion doesn't matter but who can say how that child will feel about such things in the future? I don't care about fashion but I'm old.
If I like something I don't care if its this year's style or one from years ago.
She is 3.5 and the things I bought were obnoxiously sparkly, colorful, sequins or a combination of the three. I buy from thrift stores (the main one is Once Upon a Child) or from clearance racks. I have yet to meet a 4 - 6 year old who doesn't like obnoxiously busy outfits.
So yeah, it is a bit of a risk, but I view it as a small risk that so far has worked flawlessly. Once I hit the 6-7 year old range, I'd just buy the essentials (like jeans, tank tops/layers, things like that). Shoes and coats as well. And I swear I'm not going to let her know all the pain I have known
09-Mar-2021 22:12:12 - Last edited on 09-Mar-2021 22:13:12 by Averia Light
Theos
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I wrote a much longer, more thought out post but then got timed out of the forums... and lost my response.
Balance is required, like with many things in life. To what extent is preparing for death, or preparing for a multitude of possibilities of what could happen in the future impeding upon enjoying the present moment? I don't think living to build solely a massive retirement account and saving every penny is enjoying life, nor is spending every penny and not saving for the future ideal.
We don't know when "our time" will come. I think that it is important to try to enjoy the present moment, while also simultaneously having a plan for a future. I hear from so many people that they're working hard and saving all of their money so they can "travel and enjoy life at 65+" in the future. Why not travel, reasonably or do whatever it is you enjoy now within reasonable moderation and safe for the future?
I try to plan for the possibilities of the future, but we can't plan for everything. Trying to will only lead to stress, and disappointment.
Yeah, I can get that, but I don't feel like I necessarily limit myself. A huge part of preparing is actually saving money and the more expenses I take care of, the more money I have. It is similar with investments. The more I invest, the more I generally get back (I like dividend stocks). Plus I buy at thrift or deeply discounted prices when they become available. I make a lot of my own detergents/cleaners and I am breaking into clothes making and other ways to save money.
I'm to the point where my discretionary budget is quite high and I can throw 10k or so at the house a year and 5k or so at investments and pretty much whatever at clothes. I don't travel because travelling with a 3.5 year old is a pain and I am waiting for her to turn 5 and I plan to pay off the house when she is 6 and... I guess I will stop here as each individual goal just kind of falls into each other.. And I swear I'm not going to let her know all the pain I have known
I wrote a much longer, more thought out post but then got timed out of the forums... and lost my response.
Balance is required, like with many things in life. To what extent is preparing for death, or preparing for a multitude of possibilities of what could happen in the future impeding upon enjoying the present moment? I don't think living to build solely a massive retirement account and saving every penny is enjoying life, nor is spending every penny and not saving for the future ideal.
We don't know when "our time" will come. I think that it is important to try to enjoy the present moment, while also simultaneously having a plan for a future. I hear from so many people that they're working hard and saving all of their money so they can "travel and enjoy life at 65+" in the future. Why not travel, reasonably or do whatever it is you enjoy now within reasonable moderation and safe for the future?
I try to plan for the possibilities of the future, but we can't plan for everything. Trying to will only lead to stress, and disappointment.
Yeah, I can get that, but I don't feel like I necessarily limit myself. A huge part of preparing is actually saving money and the more expenses I take care of, the more money I have. It is similar with investments. The more I invest, the more I generally get back (I like dividend stocks). Plus I buy at thrift or deeply discounted prices when they become available. I make a lot of my own detergents/cleaners and I am breaking into clothes making and other ways to save money.
I'm to the point where my discretionary budget is quite high and I can throw 10k or so at the house a year and 5k or so at investments and pretty much whatever at clothes. I don't travel because travelling with a 3.5 year old is a pain and I am waiting for her to turn 5 and I plan to pay off the house when she is 6 and... I guess I will stop here as each individual goal just kind of falls into each other.. And I swear I'm not going to let her know all the pain I have known
09-Mar-2021 22:24:56
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