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Averia Light

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Team Skull said :
And now my mother is an enabler.

So, everyone who has kept up on my family updates know my eldest sister is a fat, lazy slob with 2 kids with another on the way. Living on the dole, you get the picture.

Well, apparently her house is a mess, and what does my mother decide to do?

Clean it, despite the fact that she's done it before, and it was trashed again in a week. Dirty dishes everywhere, life forms that mother was uncertain as to what they were, you name it.

How do I tell my mother she needs to fucking stop enabling my eldest in living like a slob and to actually apply pressure to get her act together?

Now, I know you are going to hate this, because I always did when my mom said it about my oldest brother, butttttttt I don't think you can do anything that will actually work here. That is her kid. Lots of parents can't stop enabling their kids. I mean you can try telling her until you are blue in the face, and by all means do so if you feel like you need to do something, but nothing may come of it. And I swear I'm not going to let her know all the pain I have known

25-Aug-2017 13:33:26 - Last edited on 25-Aug-2017 13:35:27 by Averia Light

Kiwi Magic

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When I said she might need help I meant professional help. Like counselling or some sort of training.

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25-Aug-2017 13:41:44

Averia Light

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Idk, my husband is extraordinarily lazy in his personal life. His laziness used to drive me crazy and there were a few times that divorce was brought up due to it. What helped me put it into perspective was that if laziness was the worst thing about him, then he really isn't that bad. I know relative privation is a logical fallacy, but when it comes to humans, everyone has a flaw and I am thankful that his flaw is laziness as opposed to pretty much anything else. Maybe it will put your head af ease to think that way?

After all, her flaw could be arrogance, a holier than tho attitude, or maybe being overly judgmental.

And, idk if laziness is something that can be managed with psychological help. There might be an underlying condition, but I would imagine that someone can just be lazy with no underlying condition. And I swear I'm not going to let her know all the pain I have known

25-Aug-2017 13:59:25 - Last edited on 25-Aug-2017 14:02:07 by Averia Light

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Bernadette

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Your Mum can do what she can to 'apply pressure' for your sister to get help to change her ways but, in the meantime, I would say that your mum sees your sister has a problem and is doing what she can to help her and her children.

Your sister may have underlying problems such as depression which need professional help as Kiwi said or, as Krista says, she may just be lazy. That won't stop your mum from wanting to help her though.

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25-Aug-2017 15:00:14

Dong U Dead

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There is more to life than bloody housework - like RuneScape for example

As long as the kids are looked after, fed, cleaned, clothes washed, teeth cleaned, bedding cleaned, educated, loved she's fine and if that is what your mother wants to do, fine leave her, but she can't moan about it if she chooses to do it. If you sister chooses to live like that so be it as long as there is no vermin running around and cockroaches and maggots and other unpleasant, unhealthy stuff around.

If she's partying/drinking other stuff in front of the children then you will have a concern, a big concern, but if the kids a happy and well looked after and they are in no danger health or otherwise then you have nothing to worry about.

Also wasn't that you a while back moaning that your mother wanted you to pay for your way?? If so we all have different things we accept and don't accept, we all have things we agree with and don't agree with - we all live life differently and expect different things. Some people are in the same thought process while others are not. We are individuals with our own life problems.

People not necessarily you, but people need to stop judging and labelling people.

If fat means flavour then I'm ******* delicious!

25-Aug-2017 16:29:50 - Last edited on 25-Aug-2017 16:39:59 by Dong U Dead

Dong U Dead

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Averia Light said :
Kiwi Magic said :
Has anyone considered the possibility that Trump is just trolling everyone hard?

P sure everyone did when he put his bid in for the presidency.
I reckon he did it for a laugh or a joke and never gave it a thought that he would actually get in <- I really believe this.

Also I feel he acts like a spoilt child annnnddd I saw/read an article last night, young Trump was quite cute

who would of known, annnnnddd he was on the cover of _______ magazine in his younger years

If fat means flavour then I'm ******* delicious!

25-Aug-2017 16:46:34 - Last edited on 25-Aug-2017 17:19:29 by Dong U Dead

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Jafnhaur

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I just learned that I stepped on a cicada when walking out this morning. I heard a strange noise when I did, but thought it was something else since it sounded so otherworldly.

So now I feel pretty terrible

Although if it was on the ground, it was probably dying anyways. “Loddfafnir, listen to my counsel: You will fare well if you follow it, It will help you much if you heed it. If aware that another is wicked, say so: Make no truce or treaty with foes.” - Havamal 127

25-Aug-2017 17:09:51

Ancient Drew

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I will say this; Trump is actually intelligent and a very good businessman. But I think he has no true interest in politics. This is just him using a tactic to appeal to the public in a different way to what may be considered common or garden variety politicians, kicking up a storm to create drama which is in itself a form of advertisement. Prepare for hell on RuneScape in Naval Cataclysm!

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25-Aug-2017 17:48:09