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Agaperic
Feb Member 2012

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All of my good friends are getting married, and here I am trying to get 200M firemaking XP.

Which got me thinking, what are your thoughts on marriage? Is it for you? Is it not for you? If you're wanting to get married, what intentions do you have? Do you see a point? Are you already married? Engaged? Boyfriend/girlfriend? What age do you ideally want to be married by? Are you happy with your current relationship status (or lack of one)? What do you look for in a significant other? Have you tried online dating? Do you have any success/horror dating stories? Any regrets?

As for me, I'm 24 years old and single by choice (well, Weyburn turned me down). I've travelled around a LOT in the last 5 years, and long distance just isn't for me (I've tried it twice). As of right now, it looks like I might be settling in Nashville, so I'm planning on scanning for a potential significant other in 2016.

Would love to hear your thoughts! ;) \\ Creator of RuneScape Confessions //

23-Dec-2015 00:58:31 - Last edited on 23-Dec-2015 01:03:06 by Agaperic

Singularity
Aug Member 2023

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I think it's fine if you find someone you truly love. It's not something I'd rush, however. A lot of people tend to rush into marriages I think just for the sake of saying "I am married!!" and later they find themselves unhappy, and then..problems. I want to avoid that.

Currently, I don't care for marriage. I can't speak for the future, though. I think everyone would say (that's single) that marriage is not for them - but you don't know who's going to enter your life.

There's no ideal age for me. If I find someone, then so be it. If not, I can live with that. Again, this might change in the future but not right now :P

I'm not actively looking right now. But that means nothing. Life does love to throw things at you unexpectedly, so who knows..

Online dating is iffy - it's fine if you're planning to eventually meet each other IRL, but if you're not..it's rather pointless. Text isn't exactly enough to keep a relationship going - you'd need to actually see the person face-to-face to form a real bond. However, it seems a lot of people meet via the Internet nowadays and it actually works out well, so it's not all bad. .

23-Dec-2015 01:18:10

Klyntar

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I almost married someone at one point, then shit just spiraled out of control. I pretty much said fuck all this shit. It's not worth the pain.

If you want some ass, go get laid and be done with it. If you want that mental aspect of it, stay boyfriend/girlfriend or even just be best friends with someone and hang out with them. It's simply not worth getting that involved unless you truly want to go down that road, but it's not as simple as saying yeah I want that one day. Personally, I'm a sucker for the mental aspect of it all and so now I stay completely away from that, I can't handle it if something goes wrong; if I want some ass it's just a phone call away.

23-Dec-2015 07:55:26 - Last edited on 23-Dec-2015 12:37:53 by Klyntar

Nel50n
Sep Member 2023

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Personally, I eventually would like to get married, hopefully before my thirties. I want to get married just so I can have someone to go through life with. I like the idea of a life companion. I've been with my girlfriend for about 2 years now and there are some talks of marriage here and there, but nothing too serious.

I tend to avoid online dating as nobody online has ever been interested in me, but you never know. A few of my close friends met their significant other online and have really strong relationships so that leaves an open opportunity to meet their love on the interwebs.
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23-Dec-2015 08:04:51

Avadynn
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<--- Divorced.

My advice - DON"T FUCKING DO IT!

But seriously, it's a personal choice, I really don't know if I would ever marry again, if for some reason I do, I definitely wouldn't do the whole big wedding crap again, such a waste of money. The AFKers |
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23-Dec-2015 08:20:35

Fangy42
Mar Member 2010

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I am currently seeing someone long distance and have been for about 18 months. I do want to marry him eventually although he lives in the us and i'm in australia so one of us would have to move. I would be ok with us not getting married as long as we can have kids but hes training to be a priest so he kinda has to get married for all that stuff

I know what engagement ring i'm going to get, fully planned my wedding and named the children I want to have. I planned it all about 10 or so years ago(Yes i'm a really really big planner)

But if it doesn't work out and I don't marry and have kids, I have a 2.5 year old nephew and an 8 month old niece, i'm hoping my siblings have more kids, which I love with all my heart. Smoke me a kipper. I'll be back for breakfast.

23-Dec-2015 08:21:21

Fangy42
Mar Member 2010

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Avadynn said :
<--- Divorced.

My advice - DON"T FUCKING DO IT!

But seriously, it's a personal choice, I really don't know if I would ever marry again, if for some reason I do, I definitely wouldn't do the whole big wedding crap again, such a waste of money.

My mum has been divorced twice and before meeting her current partner she never wanted to get involved with anyone else again. On new years day they will have been together for 15 years and they don't want to get married at all. So it can work out Smoke me a kipper. I'll be back for breakfast.

23-Dec-2015 08:23:50

Lenoire
Oct Member 2011

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I can only talk for myself, we all have our own thoughts about this, but personally I have no intention of getting married. I simply see no point in that, for me it seems way too overrated.
I can love someone without some silly ceremonies and agreements that in the end mean nothing when it comes to the love itself, though I'm more than happy being single, and I don't really plan to change that as of now.
Of course I can't know what the future brings and this may change, but I don't think I'd ever get married officially either way for reasons mentioned above.
I plan to adopt a daughter one day and be a single mother for her, in which I see no issues.

23-Dec-2015 12:27:14

Fleekstar

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To me, marriage is just a label people stick on their relationship as a way to make themselves seem more in love, in a way.

That's what I don't like about relationships, there's all these labels associated with them, boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband etc and how do those affect you in real life? If you truly love someone, you don't need to go around saying "so and so" is my boyfriend/girlfriend whatever. It's just unnecessary labeling and can actually harm your relationships with other people.

Sure marriage seems nice and you get the experience of your wedding day and whatnot, but for me personally, unless my significant other at the time is 100% positive they want to get married and have all the glamour of a wedding day, I wouldn't bother with it.

Another issue I find with marriage is like, it's like a contract thing, you're contracted to stay with this person for the rest of your life and if you don't want to stay with them, you have to go through all these messy divorce proceedings that just take a lot of time and money. If you just stay together without the marriage label, it's a lot easier to move on if you find yourself not loving the person you're with

23-Dec-2015 13:43:38

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