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vonSageworth

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"My house, my rules. If you don't like it, you know where the door is."

I don't know how many times I heard that as a kid. As an adult living with my parents after I got out of the military, I heard it again. This time my Mom added, "When you get your own house, you can make your own rules." That could have come back and bit her in the butt when my Mom signed the house over to me. I had moved back in to care for her in her elder years. I didn't enforce that rule on her, but we had some good laughs about it.

No, I wasn't trying to change their way of life, exactly. Being in the military for 12 years I discovered easier ways of doing a few things. As the saying goes, "There's more than one way to skin a cat." I was trying to show them what I felt would be easier for them. Obviously, that went over like a lead balloon.

Have you experienced the same or similar reactions from your parents when you were growing up?

Do you find you have to remind your kids who makes the rules around the house?
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12-Dec-2021 00:00:52

vonSageworth

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Inspire you said :
It isn't my house, but if you aren't up an hour early before you need to leave for work & miss out on a shower, it's not my fault.

I know that feeling all too well. :|
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12-Dec-2021 00:57:43

Averia Light

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My parents said that all the time. Then said "when you have kids, you will understand".

After many years of therapy that uncovered some less-than-pleasant things, I have come to realize that I hope my kid never understands.

As far as reminding my child who makes the rules, I feel no need to assert my dominance over a 5 year old nor see a reason to. Natural consequences work just fine for 99% of problems and for the 1% of problems that she is just too little to understand, we just talk about why the rule is in place.

But that is just my kid. Perhaps other kids need to be reminded on who makes the rules, but I don't need to. And I swear I'm not going to let her know all the pain I have known

13-Dec-2021 01:32:44

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