This is a bit more of a rant, rather than a clan's discussion thread which is what this forum is really meant for.
If you are having trouble finding clans that host social events, you may wish to check out those listed in the
Social & Community Clans
forum. Many whom advertise their clans there have focuses on social events while ingame, so that would be the best place to look. You could also create a thread in the
Looking for a Clan
forum explaining exactly what you are looking for in a clan. Clans who feel they may fit that description would be able to post on your thread and then you could look into each one that does to see if there is one that fits your expectations.